Is My Partner Abusive?

Take this relationship quiz to see if you’re in an abusive relationship:

1. Does your boyfriend/girlfriend always seem to know where you are going and shows up unexpectedly?
2. Does your boyfriend/girlfriend make you feel guilty for not doing what he/she wants?
3. Does your boyfriend/girlfriend put down anything about you (i.e. your race, religion, class, or family)?
4. Does your boyfriend/girlfriend threaten suicide if you leave him/her or don’t do what he/she wants?
5. Does your boyfriend try to scare you by smashing things, yelling, driving recklessly, or with looks or gestures?
6. Does your boyfriend/girlfriend threaten to disclose personal information about you to others?
7. Does your boyfriend/girlfriend want to make all the decisions in the relationship?
8. Does your boyfriend/girlfriend force unwanted intimacy?
9. Does your boyfriend/girlfriend demand you get his/her permission to go somewhere or do something?
10. Does your boyfriend/girlfriend go through your purse, locker, cell phone, email without your permission?
11. Does your boyfriend/girlfriend hit, smack, punch, or shove you?
12. Does your boyfriend inappropriately grab/touch you in public?

If you answered yes to any one of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. Abusive relationships need to be taken very seriously. Did you know that South Carolina ranks #2 in the nation for women killed by men? It is inappropriate and dangerous for couples to receive marital or couples’ counseling when the relationships is abusive. Often when couples go through marital/couples therapy, the victim continues to be blamed for being partly responsible for the abuse. No one deserves to be hit or humiliated and no one deserves to be in an abusive relationship!

Consult the section on what to do if you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship.